Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Rihanna: A Good Girl Gone Badass? Or Bad Ass Girl Gone Worse?
The thing that bothers me though is Rihanna is a walking oxymoron.
She goes on a national news program to talk about having ended her relationship with Chris Brown because of the profound message that staying with him would send to young girls that look up to her.
Yet, she appears to dispel everything that America has been trying to teach young girls and boys since the beginning of time about education, success, image, sex and most of all...grace.
She did not graduate from high school because as she says she got too busy for school (it shows in many of her responses, by-the-way); she has tattoos of guns on her body promoting violence or a violent notion; she's using her nakedness to promote her..image..album (??), and she claims to want the "Chris Brown" thing behind her, yet she reopens the wound by slandering a man on national television who had already been "beaten" by public criticism.
It seems like Rihanna's toying with the notion of being an example to young girls as a publicity stunt to boost her image (whatever that is) and sales, and it appears to be working. So if that's her idea of being an example to young girls, she needs to think again.
She neesd to quit using her night of abuse as a free pass to be irresponsible in hopes that your fans and the public will take pity and cry, "Oh, look what she's resorted to as a result of Chris Brown beating her." If she doesn't, young girls all over the world will indulge themselves in anti-social behaviors, then cry, "my situation is a result of my actions" when they come under fire for them.
From domestic abuse and drugs, to teen parenting and illiteracy, and as a topper, the economy, anti-social behaviors among teens is too big of an epidemic to toy with for personal or professional gain.
Call to Action: Rihanna, if you're sincerely concerned about the integrity of young girls, why not create opportunities to show them how sexy success looks fully clothed. It's doable.
...but wait. Did she mention what kind of an example she wanted to be? Did she say positive? Wait..gotta go re-read the Diane Sawyer transcript.
Thanks for spending time with me!
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Until next time...
Sunday, November 22, 2009
So You Want to Write and Publish a Book...Can You?
So, you want to write?
Have you ever had your writing published? And not necessarily traditionally. I mean do you blog frequently? Have you ever published a newsletter? Have you ever written short stories or poems that you've shared with others for critique?
If the answer is no, how do you know if you're qualified to write a book? How do you know you're a good storyteller or that your story is a good one to be told? There is the rare occasion where some people just know. I was one of those people. I don't write well because I've had formal writing training. I write well because I can. But not everyone does. And that's what you need to find out.
Start by writing something and having it critiqued by someone other than family and friends. Family and friends always want what's best for you and usually offer encouragement and support instead of honest feedback. Instead, join a writers or critique group and/or attend writers workshops and conferences to get honest feedback on your writing.
Worried about being embarrassed? Think about this: would you rather other writers like you embarrass you with the truth so you can improve, or would you rather invest your time and money to be published, only to get the ultimate embarrassment: no one buys your book?
So you want to hire a writer?
Why would I (meaning readers) care about your story? Be prepared with a good answer to that question because it's exactly what a professional writer is going to ask--if he or she is good.
Many people believe their story is a good one; it may be. But before you try to publish, find out if 1-the story has already been told, and 2-what will move me about your story?
For example, if you're a cancer survivor and I am too, why would I want to read your story? I already know it. I know all you had to endure and/or sacrifice. Or, if you're a cancer survivor and I lost a love one to cancer, do I really want to hear about your triumph when I lost so much?
You have to make sure that your story stands out. What is your "X" factor? How can you write a story more unique than the next story just like it? Will your story affect me? Move me? Impact me? Shock me? Scare me? Encourage me? And if either, why or how?
If you can't find these elements, you may need to simply journal or keep a diary.
When you've answered all these questions and you're ready to hire a writer, make sure they're capable to do the type of writing you need. Compare their rates and ensure their availability and talent.
Be careful of writers that specialize in a specific writing category. Would you want a scientific writer to write your romance novel? If they're capable, why not? But usually, excellence is not an act, but a habit, and what you do the most is what you'll do the best. So if all their experience is scientific, then probably not.
Just make sure you see samples, look for a Web site or portfolio with testimonials and if available, references from past clients.
If you have a writing-related question, send an e-mail to thawriter@thawriter.biz. Thanks for spending time with me.
Birthday Parties and their Meanings
Saturday, July 18, 2009
You Have to Pick! Femme or Stud? (Do You?)
I thought this was a pretty shallow poll and felt compelled to "gently" respond. After all, who's business is it anyway how a person dresses or decides to love.
So, to address the question, why do more femmes seem to be dressing like studs, I think it's a simple matter of learning who you are and becoming bold enough to stand up to or for that. It doesn't necessarily have to mean a movement, it just means, developing as a person. On the one hand, as you grow, you become a reflection of what you're taught at home. Catholic or Baptist? Democrat or Republican? Straight or Gay? Life is habitual.
As girls, mother's never assume their daughters will be gay, so they dress them like girls: frills and lace. But the more a person is exposed to the world and all it has to offer, you start to adjust your thinking and habits, and slowly begin to mold into the you you're comfortable with. And if your male energy prompts you to feel more confident and comfortable dressed masculine--you do that.
And on whether there's a shortage: I just think women are tired of being made to feel it's necessary to wear a sign across their chests that scream, "I eat pussy for breakfast!" Women who are sound in their sexuality don't waste time labeling themselves, or screaming from the top of a mountain, "I'm gay and I'm femme!" Instead of being unnecessarily vocal about their sexuality, "real" gay women associate themselves with their kindred peers. Their social circles become other women they meet through exclusive clubs or groups for lesbian/bisexual women, and through associations.
For example, the affluent don't go around screaming, "I'm rich! I'm rich!" Instead, you'll find them shopping on Rodeo Drive as opposed to Target, or rooming at the Beverly Hills Hotel versus Comfort Inn. So what looks like a shortage is in essence has turned into handling your lifestyle with sophistication and privacy.
Finally, on are femmes going back to men: These days, it seems that being a lesbian or bisexual woman is a fad or trend. While it probably pisses those who really are lesbian or bisexual off, even to the point of feeling mimicked, the seeming acceptance from society is an uncloseted opportunity for women to get to know themselves and make an informed choice. If being with a woman helps a woman heal after a bad breakup with a man, she's more likely to go back to a man.
On the other hand, I do think more women are bisexual than ever before. Again, I believe it's a societal acceptance that gives women the green light to decide who they want to be with, be it man or woman. While a lot of women might get unintentionally used in the process, it's a process all the same.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Oh, Joe.
What has happened is, laws put in place to protect children, has made the line of defining abuse very thin. I can't think of an adult who can't remember childhood ass whippings from their fathers or mothers, but who also grew up psychologically sound. Today, however, techniques such as time-out, punishment/grounding and withholding allowance calls for spankings to be considered abuse.
Jermaine noted some of his brothers and sisters "were more sensitive than others." And culturally, black males have always shown their love for their children through a firm tongue and strict discipline (i.e., James Evans, Fred Sanford, George Jefferson to name a few). Rarely did you see them bestowing terms of endearment or affection upon their children. But their love was no less than that of their mothers'.
Friday, June 26, 2009
Michael Jackson: Born to Entertain
There is one thing that unnerves me to the core: everyone is looking for something or someone to blame. I get that the pressure from the media, family, fans and work was over-the-top. But at what point do we take accountability for our actions, behavior and seek help? If you see that being around little boys gets you caught up, untangle yourself from the web. If you become addicted to narcotics and your love ones plead with you to get help, surrender. If you find yourself changing from a cute little black boy to a distorted, white man, seek counseling. If you see your finances slipping from under you, make some adjustments.
Abuse or desperation...
Fingers are consistently pointed at Joe Jackson for pushing MJ into his Neverland fantasy. But when I think about celebrities: Tiger Woods, Venus/Serena Williams, Beyonce, Michael Jordan, Mike Tyson or any person who succeeds at what they do, I conclude that it takes practice, dedication, commitment and persistence to the craft to become "the King." Afterall, isn't that what they all strive for? And even though our parents might push a little harder than "normal," was Joe's intent to catapult all his children toward success abuse? Or a father's desperation to save his children from the poverty he endured most of his life?
In some interviews Michael says it was because of his father that he became the star he was. In others, he claims the abuse made him want to succeed to get away. But, from the many biopics of the Jackson family's rise to fame, inclusive of the hard work, the kids are laughing, singing, dancing, playing outside and interacting with other children their ages. What more did they want? Friends? Overrated. In most large families, your family members are your friends. I'm living proof. Did they not want the fame? Did he not want to sing and dance or be in a position to afford to do all the good he did?
As parents, don't we all want success for our children? I find myself wondering, if Joe Jackson said f%$k it and left him to his own notions, would he have become the legend he was? I tip my hat to Joesph Jackson. He did everything he could, the only way he knew how to provide for his family.
Throwed or Genius...
"He didn't have a childhood." That statement is overrated, a cop-out and justification for MJ's mental seclusion on fantasy island and bizarre behavior with animals and kids. But did his weirdness classify him as "throwed" or did it just bolster him to the genius category? After all, Einstein, Freud and Beethoven were considered off, but geniuses nontheless. Yes, he occasionally walked around with a damn monkey around his neck, but MJ also broke several world records during his career. You decide.
In or out...
Was MJ a closet homosexual? Who cares?!
Born to entertain...
Of all the songs that have been playing on television and the radio, one that has been playing over and over in my head is my favorite Jackson song, "We're Here to Entertain You."
When we were tiny little boys
We used to dance, we used to sing
Before we even learned to crawl or walk
As we grew up, we didn't change
Somehow we knew, right from the start
We'd love the spotlights and the stage
Because we were born to entertain...
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Promotional Markets for Your Writing
Organizations
- Fraternal
- Writers groups
- Church
- Military
- Ethnic groups in your book
- Political organizations
- Organizations related to book's subject
- Your home owners' association
- Organizations your spouse, parents, brothers, sisters, aunts/great-aunts belongs to
Schools
- From elementary to post graduate, write a list of schools you, your spouse, mother, father and children attend(ed)
- Target departments interested in your subject
- Alumni magazines
Geography
- Where does your book or article take place? Make a list.
- Join AAA and get their tour books for the states your writing covered.
- Compile a list of museums/attractions interested in your work.
- Where have you lived?
- Historical figures in your novel or writing
Magazines
- An editor might be interested to know that a writer who is published in his/her magazine has a book out.
- Target publications interested in your topic.
Public
- Give talks and get lists
- Pass out business cards
- Libraries
Everyday People
- Friends
- Neighbors
- Your doctor, dentist, optometrist, hair stylist, vet, piano tuner, lawyer, lawn boy, post office, bank.
- Now, multiply that list by listing "everyday people" for your spouse, mother, siblings, great-aunt Matilde.
These are just a very few of the many markets in which to target your work. Good luck! Let me know of others so I can share with other writers.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
Make EARTH DAY Last All Year Long!
This month, I want to remind or inform everyone that April is Earth Month and April 22nd is EARTH DAY.
In celebration of this day, month and cause, help me make EARTH DAY last all year long by visiting Get Active. Go Green! to learn what you can do to become better educated, informed and ACTIVE!
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Make EARTH DAY Last All Year Long
This month, I want to remind or inform everyone that April is Earth Month and April 22nd is EARTH DAY. In celebration of this day, month and cause, help me make EARTH DAY last all year long by visiting Get Active. Go Green! to learn what you can do to become better educated, informed and ACTIVE!
ENTER OUR GET ACTIVE. GO GREEN! CONTEST TO WIN FREE GAS, GROCERIES AND MORE!
Until next time...
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Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Job Fairs
I recently attended a couple of job fairs in Dallas to try my luck in the proverbial "Corporate America." Each experience helped me to decide that never again, unless I was forced at gunpoint, will I put myself through such grueling, disappointing, awkward experiences.
WTF?!
When will someone create the virtual job fair where at a certain time of day, employers will have a group of decision-makers log on to their Web site and wait to receive applications and resumes from potential employees? Then, in a "chatroom" setting, interview applicants and follow up with an in-person interview with candidates their interested in.
In the age of technology, that makes SO much more sense to me. Am I the only one?
Usually, most people who attend job fairs do not have jobs so (duh) who needs to waste money on gas for a wasted, ineffective trip? A virtual job fair would save gas, time and the sanity of both job seekers and employers everywhere!
Now why didn't I think of that! Oh. I did.
Until next time...couler avec la lumiére et l'univers
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
WTF?!
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
It's TAKS Season..Again! (Not You Mr. IRS)
The reason?
Today, students are taking the TAKS test. (Are you serious? Let me get this straight: if some students don't pass this TAKS test, they will either fail or not graduate, even if otherwise their grade point average is passing?! Someone please e-mail or call or comment on this blog and tell me I'm wrong!)
It is unbearable to see our childen stressing like adults over a damn test!
Oddly, I haven't met any parent, educator or academic administrator yet who disagrees that the TAKS test is jeopardizing the real education of children. Our kids spend all school year being taught how to take a test to gauge how smart Texas is; but what about how smart the children are? What am I missing?
Teaching has taken on the shape of an assembly line methodology, or some sick domino effect! If the students fail, the teachers eventually lose their jobs. However, the Catch 22 is, teachers are no longer allowed to use their creativity to teach the individual child. They are teaching a group how to pass the TAKS exam. ARGH!
Homework is a joke. Students rarely have it because teachers are not allowed to assign that much of it, and when they do, students go home clueless about what to do. They can't ask their teachers for help because they cannot be late for the next class (that equals detention or referral) or it's not tutoring day or they have to schedule a time to meet with the teacher after school or send a request to Congress to get a Bill passed. (And of course if they have to ride the bus home, they can forget it.) (Oh, and the teachers have to be off the campus no later than about 30 minutes after school lets out.)
Some classes don't even use books anymore. Instead, everything is either online or students get a TAKS worksheet, use their own notes (but are not taught how to take good notes), look at an overhead or use a TAKS workbook that they cannot bring home, that drills them on learning to identify that a glove is to a hand just as a tablecloth is to a table. Or, is the wood to the table and the hand to the finger? It's all B to the S to me.
What is going on? Teachers are next in line to parents! And all parents know that it takes creativity to raise a child, so why should teaching be any different? All children do not learn the same way or at the same pace. Children expect you to care about them! They expect you to guide them! They expect you to prepare them for a wonderful life that we all guarantee they can have if they get an education! Good grief.
Our kids are human beings, not case studies or projects. Instead of spending all year preparing for a test that most teachers don't even support, how about spending the year letting teachers teach some old fashion reading, writing, arithmetic, handwriting, spelling and grammar? (Cursive writing is not even a requirement anymore, and handwriting classes are obsolete!)
Recently, I judged some essays written by eighth graders competing for scholarships. Out of about 50 that I read, 45 read like first graders wrote them! It made my stomach hurt. Across the board, the spelling, grammar, structure and content was embarrassing. I thought I was reading text messages on paper!
Doesn't anyone get it? If teachers are allowed to TEACH..really teach, then at the very least, our children can communicate their thoughts, write a complete sentence and know how to count. Let's get that part right first. Who created this rule and who are we trying to build up—the kids or the government?
Even the students get it. My teenage daughter told me she hates the TAKS. She called it stupid and said, instead of taking some test that doesn't make sense to pass to the next grade or graduate, if you have good grades by the end of the year, you should be able to take a semester exam, pass that, average it all and go on. If not, then you fail.
How's that for government policy?
Picture this for a school marquee: "State High School—Recognized. Students' Education—Overlooked.
Until next time,
couler avec la lumiére et l'univers
Friday, February 27, 2009
Almost Like the Serenity Prayer. Or Not.
And it does.
The economy is bad. People are losing jobs. Your kids might not be doing well in school. Maybe you’re in prison or going. Maybe your home will be foreclosed and you have nowhere to go. You may be losing a dangerous amount of money in stocks. You might be having trouble paying all your bills or finding a job. Maybe your unemployment just ran out or your family member is on drugs. Maybe, just maybe, your spouse or partner is cheating on you or beating on you but you just don’t want to let go. In any case, somewhere, something is going terribly wrong for someone.
The enigma: How do you deal with it?
How can you make the world stop spinning—or even slow down—long enough to grab hold and regain control?
Sometimes, you just get tired. And in the meantime, life keeps moving. Suicide is definitely not the answer. Neither is murder, drinking, doing drugs or indulging in any other toxic behavior, chemical nor vice.
There is no point in fighting it. There's no running from it. You’ve got to find peace, because the thing is, a day, a week or even a year from now, you’ll look back on this time and decide it really wasn’t that bad.
Instead, try to figure out the message from it all. What did I do years ago or in a past lifetime ago to get to this point? How did I move on? How was I changed? Here’s a clue:
*Change the things you can
*Figure out how to deal with those you can't--but deal with them head on
*Prioritize and don’t feel pressured to sway
*Seek help, not pity
(Did I say see HELP, not PITY?)
*Listen to your body and the universe then flow that way
Above the rest, LEARN THE LESSON from it all and APPLY it.
Until next time,
couler avec la lumiére et l'univers
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Green. The New Black Ink.
Use this information to reflect on your habits as a writer; improve your habits as a writer; tell us about the alterations you made as a writer.
Ready for a challenge?
TIP #1 - Write On Recycled Paper
According to the US EPA, recycling one short ton of paper saves 17 mature trees, 7 thousand US gallons of water, 3 cubic yards of landfill space, 2 barrels of oil and 4,100 kilowatt-hours of electricity.
Of course you can buy recycled paper, but what could be more fun, exciting and out-of-the-box for a writer than to recycle paper by making your own writing pads, notebooks or journals!
If you work in an office where the extra sheet of paper comes out of the printer to identify the user, save those, and when you've accumulated a nice size stack, cut it in half, two-hold punch each half at the top then insert paper fasteners to create two memo pads. Or, use the entire stack to make a notebook or journal!
That was SO easy.
Until next time...
couler avec la lumiére et l'univers